Other people's thoughts are none of your business.

Hello, and welcome to a brand new week! I hope that you had a lovely weekend and are feeling refreshed. 

For today's post, I wanted to talk about this little saying above. It wasn't until about a year ago that I heard this (well I may have heard it before but I never really listened). However, since then I started hearing it all of the time and it just really stood out to me. It gave me an entirely new perspective and outlook on this topic and in result makes me much happier.

I am 99.9% sure that all of us have at least once in our life been offended or hurt by what somebody else thinks of us. We often aim to please people and enjoy being liked by people. However, no matter how many people enjoy your company and like you, it is always that one who doesn't that stays in your mind. Personally, I am quite a sensitive person (something that has many positives and negatives). However, because of this I often take things that other people think/say very very personally. If someone were to say to me "You look weird", then I automatically believe that I am weird. That's it. They say it so it must be true. Stupid. 

It often takes me a little while to stop and actually think about it before realising how silly I am being. Just because somebody say's something, it doesn't mean that it is true. If someone were to tell me that I was an elephant, I wouldn't suddenly believe them. I know I am not an elephant so who cares what they think? The thoughts that enter somebody else's mind is honestly none of your business. They could be thinking about what they had for breakfast but do you care? No, because you are busy thinking about yourself and what you want for breakfast. Sure, that may have been a kind of strange analogy but you get the idea. What somebody is thinking, is not your business. What somebody else thinks of you is not fact, and not your business. And in the same way, what you think about somebody else, is not their business. Don't you like her hair? So what? It is not your hair and just because you think that, doesn't make it true. 

Now I am getting distracted (surprise surprise!) but basically, I just wanted to say that you do not have to believe what anybody else says about you. YOU have the power to control your thoughts (to a certain degree). What you think of yourself is the only opinion that matters and I believe helps to define you as a person. 

I think now would be a good time to end the post, but I hope all that I have said makes sense. I hope that you go and tackle this new week with happiness remembering that what other people think is none of your business.

Thank you for reading,

Holly X

Don't let your past ruin your present.

Happy Monday to you!

As you read this I shall be off at Thorpe Park, so there may be a post next week on my day out. But now for today's post.

So today I wanted to talk about this little quote above. I am always looking at little quotes/sayings and using them as reminders and to put things into perspective. However, I specifically chose to use this little quote in today's post as I feel that it is so relevant in so many people's lives, including my own.

Everybody has a bad day from time to time, it's inevitable. There are different degrees of 'badness' but no matter whereabouts on the scale your bad day comes, it still is a bad day none the less and you are allowed to be sad or angry or just damn frustrated with the cards that life has dealt you. People often view sadness and frustration as bad emotions. Now they're not necessarily pleasant emotions but I wouldn't call them bad. They are just as important of an emotion as happiness and the fact that you feel these emotions aren't bad at all. In fact, I would say that it is pretty good because guess what? It means you're human. Congrats! 

So first of all, except that it is okay to have a bad day. It happens but nothing is permanent and that's okay. Secondly, forget about it. Easier said than done right? But I honestly believe that to some degree happiness is a choice. So when you have a bad day, and you wake up remembering all of the nasty things from the day before, just take a breath. What happened yesterday is done. You can't change the past. All these bad things, like everything else, are only temporary. So take a deep breath, smile and go and create an amazing day. Sometimes when life is giving you a load of bad days, you just have to go and create a good one. 

Smile, be happy, stop worrying about the past and focus on how you are going to make this new week a good one. 

Don't let a bad day, week, month or even year ruin your day. 

Now go and kick this weeks butt. 

Holly X

P.s- Sorry my posts are still so rambley, its taking me a while to get into the swing of things.